Saturday, September 12, 2009

We build walls

It has become disheartening to see how many of us have shut ourselves off from others. We are willing to spend half a paycheck on a Wii so that we, as adults, can get some exercise in the secrecy of our own four walls. We create our own little bubble with iPods, so we don't have to say hello to people we pass when jogging. We are so engaged in cellphone conversations at the grocery store that we can't even smile and nod to others.

And some of us build physical barriers....

I have noticed larger walls, fences, rows of bushes, and other partitions being built around houses now. We, in general, seem to want a separation from our neighbors. Have we each become our own little island? Where are the folks who would invite over the neighbors to the barbeque since they had extra burgers?

Even people who cannot erect these barricades put up a block of some sort; a few bushes noting the line of demarcation.

As I stated in my front porch post, no one seems to be connecting with their neighbors. The fine art of sitting on the front porch, or stoop, is gone. Knowing your neighbors' children has disappeared also, who made the basketball team, who's starting junior high this year, who had to stay after school for whatever reason. We are so involved in our own little worlds that we don't want to connect with those who share our street name on their address labels.

The house I grew up in was on US Route 1, a very busy street here in the northeast. On summer nights we would sit in our tiny front yard to enjoy the evening and each other's company. So many people would park their car and stop by to chat with my folks, and if they couldn't stop they would honk their car horn and wave as they passed by. This was part of our tiny front yard.

(Our front yard photo was taken to show off our peach tree, which sprouted up on its own. My father was a fresh fruit aficionado, and might sometimes toss the pit into the brush. Voila! Our own supply of peaches. It produced very well even though we never sprayed it. We claimed that the exhaust fumes from the traffic kept it bug free!)


MyStory of HiStory said...
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MyStory of HiStory said...

I've said before - to the effect - that comfortable traps seem to be some of the most effective traps. Whooda tho't people would ever be so into building their own?

P.S. Sorry - kinda botched that first attempt at leaving a comment :)

The 4 Bushel Farmgal said...

How interesting, are we becoming "enslaved" by all our things?